Christian women dating tips
This may seem like common sense, but trust me, it needs to be said.
If each of you feels that you should talk to someone that you trust (of the same sex) about fears or concerns you may have about your sexual relationship — especially the wedding night itself — then do that as your wedding approaches.
Refer to "Biblical Dating: Growing in Intimacy" for more details on this. First, don't spend significant time talking about what your sex life will be like once you're married.
As we've discussed before, do talk clearly about boundaries in your physical relationship, and do put clear methods in place to help you adhere to them, but don't spend time fantasizing about your future sexual relationship.
A simple wedding will also allow you to have a short engagement, which in most cases is a great thing for a number of reasons.
Speaking of long engagements, let's talk logistics.
Too many couples put tremendous energy and stress — even tears — into which type of faux parchment they should use for the programs so as to most effectively evoke a "Mediterranean" theme.
This is (hopefully) a much deeper and godlier assessment then simply asking, "Am I physically attracted to him or her? " If you get through all that soul-searching, you may decide (probably separately at this point) that marriage between the two of you is the right thing before the Lord.
Use that time to meditate on marriage as a relationship and as a picture of the way that Christ relates to the church. While there's a great number of spectacularly bad books on marriage, there are also some very good ones.
.] Finally, talk about things that you think might be sources of conflict during your marriage.
After the proposal is seamlessly executed and delivered by the man with no snags whatsoever, the woman says yes with no hesitation, accompanied by smiles and tears all around. It should guide you in every decision, thought and act until you stand before God, the people and the pastor on the big day. Remember that if you get nothing else out of this column.
Assuming this "cardinal rule of engagement," let's look at some God-honoring, useful ways to spend this unique time.