Dating sex and herpes
For most people, the anxiety over not telling your partner you have herpes is worse than the telling itself.
On the other hand, by telling your partner you have herpes and allowing them to enter into the relationship with full knowledge of your infection, you reduce the likelihood of them becoming infected with herpes.
This is because, when you have an outbreak, you can discuss it with your partner instead of making excuses for why you can’t have sex.
Excuses create distance between partners and often lead to misunderstanding and guesswork.
This is where having good written information helps.
It is true that in an intimate sexual relationship with a person who has herpes (oral or genital), the risk of contracting herpes will not be zero, but while there is a possibility of contracting herpes this is a possibility for any sexually active person.
And the person may unwittingly already have been exposed to the herpes virus in a previous relationship.
First of all, you spend a lot of time and energy worrying that your partner is going to get herpes.
It’s much harder to tell someone if they just found out they’re infected with herpes.